As a retired entrepreneur, a founder of a franchise company, I often assist individuals who are highly committed, and willing to persevere to succeed in their own entrepreneurial endeavor. And I say to them – “You are what makes America great!” Indeed I am thus, asked to speak at various groups which focus on business start-ups. What I’ve found is that many are close knit groups, and they are often not all that inclusive. Let me explain.
You see, I’ve spoken at Women Entrepreneurial Groups, and Hispanic Entrepreneur Clubs for instance. I will also listen to others speak, and I hear things like; “We need to stick together, do business with each other, and develop our networks – Hispanic Pride!” Okay, I get that, it makes sense, and until about 30-years ago, most community businessmen’s clubs were all men, mostly all “white men” and over the years folks noticed and said; “hey, wait one minute!”
Yes, you see here in America we stand for the best person gets the job, regardless of race, religion, ethnicity, age, sex, etc, so, may I be so bold as to ask; “why is it okay now to have a reversal – that is to say, why is it okay to have an all-women’s entrepreneurial group, a black business club, or a Hispanic Business Pride group of focused small business people?” After all, each of these groups has formed to “keep it in the family” so to speak, at the exclusion of others, those who are different.
In my professional opinion, this speaks of the greatest hypocrisy of our time, this reverse discrimination is not the answer. You cannot on one hand complain about the past, and then seek revenge, and call two-wrongs now righteous. It isn’t and everyone ought to know this, but they are blind to this reality. Personally, I know I am the best in the World at what I do, seriously, I have the statistics and history to prove that statement, and I didn’t get there by joining any white-only, or male only business groups.
Another issue that totally bothers me is when Women Entrepreneurs use sex appeal, and often write “Ms.” before their name, even when they are married, and when I ask them why, they say; “because it helps in business!” Yes, probably, but it’s a lie. Whatever happened to false and misleading marketing? And if they do this, what are they selling – a false image? Further, many are quite frank about their use of sex appeal saying; “if you’ve got it, flaunt it, all is fair in business.”
Well, okay, but if so, there shouldn’t be any complaints when guys see women as women rather than business people. If these women want respect, and exclusivity in their own business groups, and on top of that the use of sex appeal, then there shouldn’t be any reason for anyone to ever again speak of glass-ceilings, racism, sexism, or anything else. Quite frankly, I’m tired of it. Flirting one’s way in the door, might be a very good sales tactic, but what I want is the best person, company, or team for the job.
The dress-for-success, flirting routines, and all the use of industry buzz-words, and talk of professionalism is enough to make me sick to my stomach. And after listening to many of the women in these groups after I give speeches, really makes me not want to volunteer my knowledge to Women Entrepreneurial groups any longer.
We need to stop this double standard, because it is unbecoming of the rhetoric and reasoning behind the need for equality. Please consider all this, and if you contact me please come up with some debate point I haven’t heard before – impress me!